“I don’t see how he can ever finish, if he doesn’t begin” The Mock Turtles Story from Alice in Wonderland
Beginnings are always fraught – with questions, anxieties, doubts, and fear. For me that’s how they’ve always been, but what if we approached beginnings from a slightly different angle?
Some years ago I trained as a Lifeline Counsellor, and years later again started studying Psychology at university (as a mature student). This was all done with the idea I had that 1) everyone should have someone to talk to, and 2) what really makes us think and behave the way we do?
Lifeline taught me to listen, and encourage others to open up. Studying Psych taught me that there is a lot to learn about #2 and it would become a lifelong journey to find an answer.
A few months back I quit my job, with the support of my partner, and asked myself what next. I mulled this over, but not for too long, and decided to retrain as a Life Coach. So what qualified me to think I could even do that? Well, over the years I have always been the ‘go to’ person when colleagues and friends have had questions, doubts, wanted to ‘chew the fat’ or ‘spitball’ any worries or concerns. That either makes me a good listener, or the office gossip. I’ll go with the former, as I also learnt that discretion is the better part of valour and the sanctity of the confessional (my office or cafe stop) is never broken. Which, on that hamster wheel of life, means people kept returning to my office and new people came in regularly.
A lot of what I heard revolved around people not achieving their full potential, or not reaching the goals they thought they had set themselves. Personal relationship issues came into it as well, but mostly these chats revolved around people feeling ‘stuck’ and unable to move forward. When I say people weren’t achieving goals they ‘thought they had set themselves’ I come back again to that stuck feeling, that, I’M GOING TO DO THIS … and then it never quite happens. That; I am going to get fitter, healthier, become a better me, slow down, speed up, GET STUFF DONE mantra we have but many of us can’t deliver on.
There starts the Life Coach training – another arrow to put in the quiver in order to truly be able to help guide someone on their own journey. Not provide answers, not tell you what you’re doing to slow your progress or self sabotage, you probably know a lot of that already – but to be the one that enables you to move forward, confidently.
So how to deliver on your own mantra? How to better define and agree what that mantra or goal even is? That’s where I hope I or someone like me steps in. A coach can help you to; define your goals, work out your strategy to suit your own needs, and hold the mirror up so you can fully realise your potential and ability to make change happen.
This is a journey for me as well, as I find my way, set and achieve my goals, stumble, get up, start over and hopefully provide some inspiration for you along the way.
Via ElementalU I want to look at the whole person; holistically, realistically, totally – all the elements that make you, you.
I’ll be blogging regularly and will share links, readings, books, and inspirational people and organisations I come into contact with that will help you and me get our stuff done.
In the meantime check out http://www.sarahwilson.com … just do it … she’s inspiring and had her own share of ups and downs…